You are walking down the street without too much expectations, when you see your future girlfriend walking along minding her own business. She immediately catches your eye and your heart. You want to meet her, stop her, go up to her, and have a deep discussion with her.
But then you start thinking how she would react if a bum like you accosted her in the middle of the day, in the middle of the street. Because if an actual bum were to accost YOU in the middle of the road, you'd feel harassed, irritated, and/or a little bit scared.
Well, trying to stop a woman in the street is just about like that. Everybody wants to feel busy, engaged, and self important so a woman walking busily down the street is in a hurry to get somewhere not that terribly important. A strange man stopping her from her mission is akin to a bum accosting you for money. She will not take it too pleasantly.
Because of the mission oriented mindset of the woman, the success rate of stopping and positively engaging a woman on a street is LOW. A woman doesn't want to be stopped. Even if they're going nowhere fast, they still think they're going somewhere. The concept of meeting a woman on the street just doesn't work (most of the time).
Then what exactly should you do? Should you just let that cutie walk along and out of your life? Not if your dating life depends on it! There is a way, a better way then attempting to stop a woman on the street. A way that makes the conditions to approach her much more conducive to success.
Basically, do not try to stop a moving target on a mission... follow her. Don't creep up on her, don't rush after her, and certainly don't stalk her! Just do some Mission Impossible recon and follow her. Follow her since people walking on the road are not walking far. If they're walking, they're walking to someplace close, otherwise they'd be driving in their car. So if you see a woman walking down the road, odds are good she is going somewhere close.
Be like 007, cool and inconspicuous, and trail her. You can regroup and come up with a game plan once she has stopped and you have determined her destination. Once she has actually settled at her destination, you can approach her like normal in an environment that is a lot more favorable for approaching. Depending on the spot and setting, you will have to adjust your approach and opening technique but it will be in a much more relaxed atmosphere where you won't be a bum off the street accosting her.
A fixed target is a lot easier to hit then a moving one. So be patient, get in touch with your inner Ethan Hunt, do some mission impossible spy work, and approach a stationary target.
